Motivation is a Myth, How to Motivate Yourself from the Inside Out!A giant room filled with eager fans, waiting for the speaker to come out, the music builds, boom....Boom....BOOM. Then they step out onto the stage and everyone jumps up. Wow, feel that...everyone is smiling, happy, pumped up. The light show, the message everything is engaging you and it feels amazing, you get it. So clear, the message comes across, you can change, the only one holding you back is yourself. What are you waiting for????? Go out and get it! It is all within your reach!!!! Now! Here! Today!!! One hour and 45 minutes of ON time. The team is there and everyone is on board. The show winds down, you have your notes, the idea is so easy, just go out and do it, you even have the how, these simple steps. No WAY you can not make this happen, make that change, grow your business, be successful and live the life of your dreams!!!!!
Lights are up, everyone is happy, excited this has been a great event, just what we all needed. As you leave the room you know this is going to make a difference. How can it not!?! Let's skip ahead after the dinners, celebration, promises to start right away. Let's go beyond the drive or flight home. Past the kids, family, home that welcomes you back. Let's get right to where the rubber meets the road...your first day back to the office. You have your list, the notes and the booklets and folders with you. You are the A-Train of change, get a ticket or get out of the way. The first meeting starts with the new ideas. These are great. Let's make all the changes we know we have to make, get it in place now, fast.
Ok, now let's jump to week three, week four. Now what is happening? You and the rest of the people in the office are back, doing business as usual. What has changed?
Who has changed? You?
Have the changes taken place?
What has happened to all the motivation you felt?
Why have things not changed?
The biggest thing to know, not even just understand but know is that change can not come from an external force. That is hard to accept but it's a fact. You want it to, you will it to. What about your own belief system? Have you started to magically believe you are someone different? No, no one is capable of becoming someone else over night. This is a really tough thing to think about. The fact that you want to be different is not enough to become someone different.
You MUST put in the time. We all come with a set of beliefs and concepts about ourselves. You may go to an event and want to be more than you are. You hope and dream and that is why it feels good for one hour, two hours, three days and then you are right back where you were. You are the same person just with a question of
why you can not achieve what you just saw was possible. This is not to say you can not change. You can, but the truth is it will take some fine tuning from you and a clear idea of where you want to go to do it. You must know why you want to change and then you will have to see yourself being the new person and grow into it.

The beginning of change is reshaping your thinking.
How do you talk to yourself? What do you believe yourself to be? The things we say to ourselves, in our thoughts are the things that shape us. Ultimately we all decide, every single day, whether we are going to be successful. Are your thoughts successful ones or are they self doubting? You must reprogram yourself and start to think of yourself as a successful person. This can start with I am statements.
Here is your homework: Write out statements that say I am.... It can be; I am a great mother/father, I am successful, I am happy, I am a top professional. Own them and start to repeat these to yourself. Only as you start to change the internal dialogue can you start to affect change. This must happen every day, every morning, all day long. Break down the old ideas of who you are and rebuild the ideas of who you want to be.
For a free copy of the basic I am statements to help you start to create a better internal dialogue e-mail me at Stephanie@mpc-coaching.com. It is not a quick fix but you will start to see change over time. The landscape to become who you want to be is available. It is up to you to do the work.
Check out my next blog on how to make change happen and stick for you. As always call me if you have questions about what changes could help you be the person you want to be not just the person who you have been.(888) 771-7672 ext 4.
Stephanie York
Head Coach . MPC Coaching